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This is my answer column. It's an advice column, a question column, for some people a bitch at me column... whatever it's all good. � For the record my now skinny more skinnier than me friend who used to be an alcohol calaried out chubby dude never called me to go to the drive in. The other night at the club for that benefit I told you all about, his recently ex girlfriend's rear car window got smashed in... so perhaps she had him arrested because she thought he did it (which he didn't.) Hrmm. I guess I should call.
Anyway, every Wednesday I become The Answer Guy. If you need advice or need the answer to something, click on any of the 3 � advice links on this site and ask anything you would like to know.
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name: Iron Chef
question:
dear mr.johnpowers, do you cook? if so do you have any good recipies? I have a predisposed obsession with food. I must assimilate large quantities of recipie ideas to survive. please help if you can. thank you.
Answer:
Which Iron Chef are you? I like Iron Chef Italian myself.
I was a dining room cook for a large family restaurant while I was in High School. Colleen's was the name. I worked there from age 13 1/2 (the legal age to start working in Massachusetts) until the age of 18. I was a dishwasher for a year and then afterwards moved up the ranks until I was able to cook the entire menu. Let me tell you, that job got me a lot of girlies who liked the smell of kitchen grease. Read that as none.
I hardly cook now - mostly because I'm too lazy to make elaborate stuff.
The most recent dish I prepared that I really liked was Shrimp Scampi Florentine
If that's too much trouble for you or if the ingredients you get to use on your next Iron Chef battle are Ramen Noodle, Prawns, and a bottle of Ketchup, you can prepare the above recipe with those ingredients just as easily.
(Bows to the Iron Chef)
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name: andrea
email: [email protected]
url: http://blistery.diaryland.com
question:
if you're in a situation in a relationship and you're really unsure of you feel about the other person is it better to give it time or to just end it? in lieu of things with matt and i ending i've decided that i still want to see him, but i'm afraid that he just hears "yes, we really probably still have a chance." and we do, but we might not either. so what do you think?
Answer:
Blistery, I consider you my friend, so giving you this advice sucks for me. I don't want to steer you wrong... ahh what the hell.
Matt is probably hearing "Yes, if I give her the time she needs we WILL get back together."
The problem is you can never start over, you've already dated, you've already been intimate, and time will not change that.
It sounds to me as if you're just not ready to be in a monogamous relationship at this point in your life. You've recently broken it off with a person you lived with for a while, and the decision to end that relationship was not just because of the interaction between you and the first boy, it was also because of changes in yourself.
Having Matt to a certain extent take the place of the previous dude so quickly was probably recreating the same issues that caused you to break off the previous relationship.
It's not that there's anything wrong with you. It's not that you're a bad person for wanting to have some space to figure out what you want and to then accomplish it, it's that you need that space. Take it. Own it. Be your own person. (Why do I feel like the short guy in Better off Dead saying 'When you need to change direction, turn!')
If Matt can handle just seeing you now and then, then I would say go for it. Keep in mind that whenever you see him, you will still have a history and thus a relationship.
Ask these questions: How would Matt react if you were to start dating someone else as well? How long is Matt willing to wait before he starts to resent the current situation. Does Matt agree with your reasons for breaking your status of boyfriend and girlfriend or is he just dealing with the situation right now in the hope that things will go back to 'normal'. Is he comfortable with you having the power in your current relationship.
If you can answer the above questions, and as long as those answers are ones you can deal with - then keep seeing him. Once those answers change in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, then it may be time to break it off for good.
Don't rush to a judgement, because time is on your side and at this point you are in control of what happens between you and Matt in the future.
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name: m0ok
url:http://m0ok.diaryland.com
question:
Lord Powers, I sold my soul to Satan when I was 17 in exchange for three desires. Satan was as good as his word, and these desires have now been fulfilled. Thing is, now I've realized that I didn't _really_ want them. I'm now tied to a pact stating that I will ride on heaven as part of the Devil's army, wreaking slaughterous vengeance on them Angels. Is there any way out of this contract? Thanks, m0ok.
Answer:
M0ok! You never call, you never write... Good thing I'm not your mother, else I'd be even sadder.
But back to the question... the classic 'be careful what you wish for' parabilic question.
Say you made a contract with the Devil to never worry about crossing the street again. Suddenly you may find yourself without any legs...
But when we decide to cross the street, we don't worry about Devil's Contract interpretations in which we take "crossing" the street to mean paving it over, or in which we decide to devote the rest of our lives to crossing the street, or that we'll turn the whole Universe into crossable streets.
So perhaps you should take a road trip to Heaven Heights in Massachusetts after you have joined the Canadian Special forces which used to be known as the Devil's Brigade or in other words the Devil's army, and since you'll be so buff from being in special forces, you can seek out the local chapter of the Hells Angles and reap some havoc on the few of them who are truly bad apples.
Either that or become a fan of the punk band The Cromags find some people with similar musical taste in Heaven Heights in Massachusetts (at one point the band Cromag changed their name to White Devil) and challenge the local chapter of the Hells Angles to Cribbage, lose, and then wreak slaughterous vengeance on them Angels by skunking them 5 times in a row.
Do that or something similar and you've fulfilled your contract.
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name: mindlesslug
email: [email protected]
url:http://mindlesslug.diaryland.com
question:
so 2000 years ago the greeks flourished, making out standing achievements for man kind. beginning western civilization. and about 90 percent of the people there were slaves. today, august 2001, the western civilization is blooming, sports, sciences, and arts are at their peek, and still most of the human race is living in extreme poverty, fighting for its food, working for the rich ones. is the human race really plainly incompetent to take care of itself?
Answer:
Nope the human race isn't incompetent, its exploitative. Developed societies invariable fall into classes. In Greece and then Rome the only way they could get their society to work was to have a slave class. Those living at the time not thinking past their daily lives, never questioned this.
Today we are reaching a world society. A world culture. Without the poorest class of people, the richer class (you and I) would not be able to have the current standard of living we are accustomed to.
The poorest of the poor are cheap labor to the mega corporations.
They are sources for our Charity - think of World Hunger of America, Inc, Sally Struthers, The Red Cross.
They give us a chance to test our military and learn from those mistakes so we are ready if another large society tries to supplant our influence. An example of this would be the mess during the 90's in Somalia.
Is it right? Is it the fault of the under developed poor countries that the richer ones don't spend half their income per capita raising their standard until our standard of living is half what it is today but theirs is equal to ours?
It all depends on your point of view and whether anyone stops to think of it at all.
In my mind we are little different than the ancient Romans with 90 percent of the population enslaved to us.
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name:jen
email:[email protected]
url:http://sjomedia.diaryland.com
question:
How come, sometimes, something like scrubbing the soap scum out of the shower can make you completely and totally happy?
Answer:
You're my girlfriend who's in Philly right now, so I can be curt with this one.
When it's legal, never question what makes you happy - especially when it's due to a sense of accomplishment for just getting something done that you have been wanting to get to.
