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name: AraAspasia
email: [email protected]
url: http://ara-aspasia.diaryland.com/
question:
I
heard on TV (Rosie O'Donnell show, I think) about this male gay couple in
Florida who've been foster parenting 5 hiv-infected kids. One of their
kids (who just recently tested negative for hiv for the first time) has
been raised by the 2 men since the child was 8 days old, he's now 10 years
old. Now, the state is threatening to take the child because, in Florida,
it is illegal for homosexuals to adopt children. http://lethimstay.org is
the site that the family has up so that people can help support their
cause by submitting email or letters to the governor Jeb Bush and to the
Department of Children and Families Secretary Kathleen Kearney. Now, my
question to you is... What do you think about homosexuals raising
children? What do you think about this particular case? I want to discuss
this, but I live Utah, and they aren't so talkative on this subject
here...
answer:
The idea that a gay couple is less equipped to raise a child is reflective on the old ignorant school of thought that homosexuals are deviant.
They can't raise kids, they're gay. They might start to fuck the kid once he hits puberty. They'll raise him to be gay. Blah blah blah - ad nausea.
They're not saying all children should be taken away from single fathers; they're saying if you're gay, you're an unfit parent. My opinion is that this is just one more example of the high level of ignorance in America.
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name:
Desiree
email: [email protected]
url: http://talkwithme.blogspot.com/
question:
John,
after reading a bit of your site (not enough as I have to go to bed!) I
know little about you, but thought what the hey... I'll ask for advice.
What does one do to get a remote control addicted husband interested in
doing something with her(the
wife!)??
answer:
You can't force a person you are in a relationship with to do things. They just end up resenting it, and eventually you as well.
What you should do is trick the man. Figure out what he likes to watch on TV, and then incorporate that into an activity. Does he like to watch soccer? Then buy tickets to a soccer game. Does he have a bar he used to like to go to a few years ago? If so, make plans with him to see the old haunt.
Start off with things that you know he definitely would like to do, so as to get him in a more active mode, and then incorporate things that he is not that crazy about. That way he will already be used to doing different things again, and you will have a lot less convincing to do.
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name:
Tovah
email:
url: http://cleopatragb.diaryland.com/
question:
What
is the best substitute for fish food when you are flat broke and won't get
paid for another week? Would bread work? If so, which is better, white or
wheat?
answer:
You can feed fish lettuce, all kinds of bugs, worms, and yes bread. Just don't feed them too much bread as it will foul the tank.
Fish can go quite a while without eating, so not feeding them for a week shouldn't hurt them.
The saying about dogs applies to fish as well: a hungry fish is a happy fish.
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name:
Steph
email: [email protected]
url: http://
question:
OK, I need advice on what
I should do with this guy Im seeing. I like him a lot, and he says he
likes me a lot too. Ive been seeing him now for a few weeks and he hasnt
asked me out yet. He did just get out of a really bad relationship, they
were going out almost 2 years and he liked her a lot. And the fact we met
only a few days before we started "seeing" eachother. Could this be why we
arent going out yet? And he usually calls me everynight when he gets out
of work but theres some nights he doesnt and he goes to parties and
crap....should I be worried?
answer:
It does seem like it's a little soon for him to be in another serious relationship. I'd suggest talking to him about it. Chances are he wants a little freedom from responsibility right now, but unless you talk to him about where the two of you are going then you won't ever know.
I'd maintain the status quo for a few more weeks and then demand to know exactly where the two of you stand.
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name:
Ripe Tomato
email: [email protected]
url: http://ripetomato.diaryland.com/
question:
OK,
perhaps you can end the debate once and for all. Half of my friends agree
with me, the other half think I'm depraved, taking the "sometimes a cigar
is just a cigar" opinion.
http://ripetomato.diaryland.com/020204_5.html#penis ... check it out,
particularly the first picture. What do you think ... innocent, or
not?
answer:
Sometimes a lamp is just a lamp.
If you really wanted to compare your lamp with a phallic symbol, then you could certainly find similarities. The lamp shade suggests the head of a circumcised penis. The shaft of the lamp looks, well... like a shaft. There's a hole in the top of the shade and there is a hole in the top of all peni (plural of penis.)
So you can make the argument that it does resemble a penis, you can also make the argument that it doesn't. Such as if you scaled the width to height of the lamp to actual size, you would end up with one very small penis, which doesn't bode too well for your friend.
I also doubt the designer planned it that way. They would have made it a little more obvious if they intended the similarity to stand out, and lastly, if that lamp was made to suggest virility, then what was up with the architects who designed the Kremlin?
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